Learning How To Say ‘No’ In A Go-Getter World

Take a breath. It’s okay to say no.

How To Say No
Bob Wiley gets overwhelmed too

This is the lesson I’ve been learning: how to say “No” in a go-getter, work-is-everything world.

And this is not me saying, “The worst thing about me is that I just work too hard.”

This post is about limitations and how you can thrive when you pay attention to them.

I recently made the jump to full-time music writer and musician. But before that, I was juggling (and nearly dropping) a lot different things.

  • I was working part-time at a bank, getting yelled at by angry customers.
  • I was trying to get my writing career off the ground, taking on too many freelance jobs at once.
  • I was running my podcast, getting stressed that the latest episode was late.
  • I was playing a bunch of shows to raise money for our adoption, tiring out myself and my band mates.
  • I started recording an album, but was struggling to find time to actually record.

This all just led to stress. Even more so, each of these things was getting less attention from my brain and the quality of each was in danger.

So, I had to get rid of something. It wasn’t a sustainable way of life, especially being a husband and father.

Because “No” let’s you rest. “No” is freeing. A “No” is a “Yes” to the most important stuff.

Now that I’ve quit the bank job, taken a break from the podcast, and I’m holding off on booking shows, my stress level is down.

This means I can give more brain power and time to my new album, my writing career, and (most importantly) my family.

Learn from my missteps. Learn your limitations and practice saying “No” to something(s) if it’s too much.

You’ll see how the stuff you keep doing will thrive.